If you listen to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to MEN.

And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard it is to find good men to date...

Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about men in general...

...And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL.

The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and characteristics that they HATE in single guys.

Did you know this?

I didn't think so.

Well, the truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn't know this either.

So take heart in the idea that you're about to learn something that most men on this planet will DIE not knowing.

My hope is that what I'm about to share with you will change how you interact with women FOREVER... and help you meet and date more of the kinds of women you're interested in.

Onward.


FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They are NOT the same.

One can lead to another, but it's RARE when it happens.

Remember that.

One CAN lead to another, but it's RARE.

"Romantic" relationships are very different from "friend" relationships.

While most men would sleep with most of their female "friends" if the woman "came on" to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider "just friends".

But why is this?

How do women differentiate between "just friends" and "I'll be intimate with you"?

And why is it so hard to become "more than friends" with a woman you've been "just friends" with for a long time?

The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.

I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women "know" when they want to "be intimate" with a man... and, even MORE
importantly, understanding how women "know" when they DON'T want to "be intimate" with a man...

The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she's with is "friend" material or "lover" material is how she FEELS.

It's a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.

It is NOT logic.

She might USE logic to "rationalize" her decision... or she might USE logic to SOUND like she has a good reason for either "being with" or
"not being with" a particular guy.

But don't let that distract you.

Logic isn't important AT ALL in this context.

So let me say this another way.

A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as the basis for her "decisions" and actions with a
particular guy.

If she feels that "Ewwww Yuck!" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question.

If she feels that "It's Gettin' Hot In Here" feeling, then her "logical" conclusion will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good "choice" to date. At this point she'll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts...

It goes like this:

FEEL--->THINK--->ACT

First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT... and THEN the action.

Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an important question:

How do most guys behave around women that they're "romantically" interested in?

And another:

What do they do to get the woman that's the object of their desires to be with them?

Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen handy.

I'm serious. I'll wait.

Come back when you're finished.

Now take a look at your list.

I'll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something "external".

In other words, your list probably contains things like "Take her to dinner" and "Give her compliments" and "Buy her flowers" and "Call
her often".

These are all things that demonstrate that he's INTERESTED.

They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside of a woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.

In other words, men try to use "props" to LET A WOMAN KNOW HE'S INTERESTED...

...HOPING that when the woman sees these displays she'll be interested in him.

Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even remotely similar to "Attraction" and "Arousal".

Of course, you know this.

You've probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it's like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I'm interested... only to have her NOT RESPOND in a "romantic" way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.

First, it's just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you "like her" has no effect on how she feels about YOU.

In the moment it sure seems to make sense... "If I show her how I feel, she'll return the feelings".

Duh.

Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner little girl has a big fat crush). But it's not... it will have NO effect on her feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON'T GET IT. It tips a woman off INSTANTLY that you're not hip to what's going... and it
kills your chances with her.

Say what?

You mean that doing nice things for women, and trying to show how you feel can actually HURT your chances with a woman?

Yea, it can.

Look, if you've been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday comes... it's OK to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her.

YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.

But if you've known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you're going to shoot yourself in the foot.

Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON'T GET IT. And if you DON'T get it, PLUS you're trying to compensate for the fact that
you don't get it with gifts and compliments, then you're REALLY screwed (or not screwed, as the case may be).

Remember what I'm about to tell you.

Burn it into your mind.

Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor...

SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN'T "GET IT"... AND
THEY'RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN'T "GET IT" JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING AND TRYING.

Keep in mind that single, attractive women watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake their pretty heads and say "He doesn't get it... He doesn't get it... He doesn't get it" over and over and over.

The point is that if you DON'T GET IT, then nothing you do is going to work for you.

The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you're going to need to take a totally different road to get where you're going...


WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS...

Let's return to where we started.

There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women.

One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they're DEAL KILLERS.

A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE of these things), it can DESTROY your chances of success with a particular woman.

Here are a few of the BIG things that single women hate:


1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention And Approval

If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy's chances, it would be this.

It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it's EVERYWHERE.

Men, in effect, say "Hi, I want your approval and attention. I'm willing to let YOU be the one who's in control... and let YOU call the shots... and do anything to please YOU... if you'll give me your attention and
approval".

But the problem is that women DON'T WANT you to give up your status and "manliness".

Women aren't ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative.

Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he'll give away his power in return for approval.

THEY HATE IT!

I could literally write an entire book on this one single concept.

Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that you make this mistake with women.

More importantly, think about how you're going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.


2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure

When one person "clings" to another person "psychologically", the person who is being "clinged to" RESENTS and REJECTS the needy,
clingy emotional parasite...

This is WUSS behavior at its worst.

If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says "Hey, I have to go", he might say "Aw, well... um... OK. Um, will you call me when you get home?".

Or let's say a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they're walking around in a large department store.

Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and not leave her side for a minute.

If she wanders away, he'll come find her IMMEDIATELY.

He'll stay physically close to her, as if he's afraid she'll leave without him.

And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually ASKS a woman to tell him that he's nice, fun, interesting, etc.

"Do you think I'm interesting?"

"Do you think we could ever have a relationship?"

"Am I your type?"

Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to RUN AWAY.


3) Not Leading - And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her To Lead

Women have WUSS-DAR.

One of the things that triggers a woman's WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS.

The REAL problem is that most women won't try to LEAD naturally.

So you've got a situation where a man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn't LEADING.

He's looking for little cues so he knows where to go and what to do... but he isn't getting them.

So what does he do?

He ASKS for them!

He says "So, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner... how does that sound?".

Everything about the way he asks says to the woman "I'm trying to figure out what you want me to do... please help me know how you want me to act, where you want me to take you, and what you want me to say".

This is ATTRACTION DEATH!

men who don't lead, and even worse, try to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT OF SINGLE WOMEN.

They HATE IT!


4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone, And Body Language

There's a term that single, attractive, in-demand women use to describe men who use weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures,
comments, and mannerisms...

The term is "NICE".

"He's nice... but... there's no chemistry."

This is one of those areas that's not easy to talk about.

Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it's almost impossible to explain.

It's like trying to tell a fish that they're not going to get anywhere in life
if they stay wet.

The fish doesn't even KNOW it's wet in the first place.

But let me try.

This is important.

Go spend a day observing couples.

Go places where couples that have just met spend time together.

Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever.

Now watch the GUYS.

Watch how they lean towards the women.

Watch how they raise their eyebrows in exaggerated response to women's comments.

Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly at whatever the women say.

If you're close enough, listen to how men ask questions and make comments with a voice tone that says "I'm insecure and I'm trying
to be extra nice to compensate for it".

You'll see it EVERYWHERE.

In fact, you'll see it so much that you'll probably write me back to tell me that I'm the one who's crazy, and that since it happens so much, it must be "the right way".

Well, it's not.

If there's one thing that triggers an attractive single woman's WUSS-DAR, it's a man's posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, etc.

It all happens in an INSTANT.

Women read this stuff and interpret it as instantly and accurately as you read and interpret the cover of Playboy.

NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY.

I'd say that probably 90% of all men alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with women because of this problem.

Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc. TELEGRAPH the message that they're a WUSS.

They do a thousand weird little things to let a woman know that they're uncomfortable and "not being themselves".

And you guessed it...

Single women HATE IT!


5) Not Understanding That She's A Woman And You're A Man

I'm about to get philosophical on your ass, so be cool.

When it comes down to it, most men don't understand women.

But the REAL kicker is that most men don't understand MEN, either!

Most guys don't know what it's like to get in touch with their MALE NATURE.

Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger ATTRACTION in women.

Women have a "nature". A female nature.

Men also have a "nature". You guessed it, it's a MALE nature.

Women are coy. They like to play hard to get. They like to enjoy the chase. They love anticipation. They love to "let a guy catch them"...

Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like to play rough games, win things, and rule their territory.

Well guess what?

Most men don't BEHAVE like men when they're in the presence of a woman that they "like".

And since most men don't understand female human nature, they don't demonstrate that they "get it" when they're with women that they "like".

Women like men. Men like women. There are POWERFUL causes at play here.

When you're around a woman you like, don't act like a GIRLY-MAN. It's not sexy, and it's not attractive...

And single women HATE IT!


6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around

Underneath most behavior that I see most guys acting out is a "core belief" that goes like this:

"I don't believe that an attractive woman would want to be around me just because she enjoys my presence... so I make up for it by saying and doing certain things that I hope she'll enjoy... and if she enjoys those
other things enough, then maybe she'll want to spend more time with me."

Heavy, man.

Well guess what? Most attractive single women KNOW that if a guy isn't interesting to be around, they she's eventually going to go CRAZY being around him.

In other words, no amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, and other "displays" will EVER compensate for a lack of BEING INTERESTING.

Here's a profound thought:

I and several other guys I know have many women who call us often... just because they enjoy being around us.

These women would be happy just to be in the same room with us... and enjoy our company.

And yes, these women CALL US.

Often.

Material gifts, food, flowers, and other "displays" have ZERO lasting value to a woman when it comes to how she FEELS about you...

An attractive single woman wants a guy who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD.

She wants mystery... she wants to laugh... she wants a challenge... she wants sexual tension...

If you're using compliments, gifts, food, and other "displays" to get a woman's attention... you need to ask yourself a tough question:

Is it because you don't believe that a woman would want to be around you just to be around you?

Because if you don't know how to be INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of compensation is going to fix the problem.

If you're boring, predictable, and uninteresting, then you're never going to have women calling YOU to hang out.

Oh, and women HATE IT.


7) Not Understanding Attraction

This is a BIGGIE.

You hear me talking about it all the time, right?

Maybe now that you've read this newsletter you'll have a better context to understand what I'm about to tell you...

If you "get it" with women, it's SUPER INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.

Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they're with a guy who "gets it".

Women know very quickly if they're talking to a guy who understands himself and women... and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension.

Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of "Sexual Communication".

If he doesn't, then she stops all communication on that level.

If he does, then it continues.

ATTRACTION Isn't A Choice.

Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE... and you can't "convince" a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.

Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works... and who knows what to do in each specific
situation to progress to the next level.

The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT
OBVIOUS.

They're "counter intuitive", in many cases.

In other words, they're the OPPOSITE of what you'd THINK would make sense.

You have to do things like CREATE TENSION... stop doing something that she likes... give her time to miss you... etc.

And if you don't understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to KNOW IT.

And guess what?

Single women HATE IT when a man doesn't understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate on this "other level".

well i'm kinda shocked to know that such a mechanical device can predict my so called "wedding"..

its been ages since i visited tickle and i'm kinda engrossed taking some of the quizzes there.. then i've become interested in this kind of test where you could actually answer questions that will predict how long or near you're going to settled down, then i said why not try it??

after series of questions the date was set.. and it will be on the 27th of August on the year 2011..

to think that i don't even have a boyfriend.. its pretty hilarious.. but why not nature takes its course.. we'll just see..

i wish that time i already finished my course and if i'm not lazy enough to do the clinical requirements i should have graduated on the year 2010..

wow only a year of romance and already thinking of settling down.. why not work and strive to have a stable job first...

and why i'm talking about this stuffs?,..well 'cause i'm pretty intrigued that's all...

i'm taking another test and hope it will have a more sensible result.. so help me god!! hehe.. good luck to me..

ciao...

posted from my multiply account:

Apr 20, '08 12:03 AM

i appointed my patient @ 11:30.. thursday~~
coz my class will end by 11 that morning...
i still have 30 minutes to eat lunch~~

when i got back from the food stall..[don't have much time to go to food chains..=.=']
my patient is already waiting for me..
she's half an hour early~~>.<'
so i borrowed my friend's patient 's id for the meantime..
(i thought mine is missing.. but i found it.. at last!!!..lol~)
i asked if i could eat for a while...
she agreed...

15 minutes before 12 noon i went to ready my things...
when i enter the endo-perio section the floor coordinator is not there~~
so i waited..
one C.I saw me~~
she asked what procedure i'll be doing..
i said.. perio presentation~
she told me to go inside.. i asked for my module number...
she said to go to 205 but i don't know who my clinical instructor will be~~
but i just started to do what i need to do...
i asked a favor from my friend if he could assist me... as usual he agrees...
so we started...

[it was so tiring.. probing six surfaces of one teeth... and how many is the complete dentition??..32.. ryt?!.. gosh.. i was lucky that most teeth on the upper arch are missing already]

after 2 and a half hours of probing.. i'm done... yah0ooooo!!!!!!
i asked the fc on duty on whos gonna be my C.I.~
he said go to doctor _______......hehe~~

i went there.. and he signed my form without any questions...
wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.... at least there' had been no question and answer portions...lol~~
i'd been superbly happy that moment..haha!!

but then again...
i almost forgot that i have another patient waiting for me...
hehe~~
she had me paged at the guard station even before i finished my perio presentation...=.='

[y do all my patients always come an hour or half an hour early??.. i'm being pressured..haha]

it's 3 in the afternoon..
and the last entry for trial fit with wax is 3:45..
i know i still have a lot of time..
but when i went up to the 4th floor...
i just asked the fc to let me do my work...
and i was being put to another C.I.~~

i was about to be checked but!!!!
my clasp arm broke!!!!
T_T
she gets my long form and put a remark~
unfortunately i need to recast my metal framework..
goodness gracious!!!!
i'm gonna spend again bucks for it...huhuhuhuhu~~

that's how my day ended...
too many cuts..
but too lazy to put all the day's activity..lol~~

it's 15 minutes before 8 in the morning so i went straight to the sterilization area..
coz i need to sterilize my probe for my perio presentation..^.^
my friends are calling me sending their greeting but i didn't mind @ all..
coz if i'll be staying there i won't be able to sterilize my things on time~~
hehe...

after that it's the only time i greeted them...
and they were complaining..lol~

anyways i get my things on my locker so that i can have my setting for rpd be checked~
the time is 8 but as usual the clinical instructors.. more often than not.. are late~
that's y i still have to wait for about 30 minutes...
so while waiting i'm watching the dentistry team practice their dance for their presentation...
they were good... and i wish i could dance like some of them..lol~

it's almost time for my first class that day~
when my C.I. on duty came..
and she went straight to their lounge to have a tete-a-tete..>.<'
*sigh*
i already saw her but i was on the other end of the room so my claasmates were the ones who had been checked first..
i was already there when the C.I gave her comments...
i do think she did woke up at the wrong side of the bed~

"kung ilang butas meron ang perforated trays nyo.. ganun din kadami ang butas nah gusto kong makita sa mga individual trays nyo"
that's exactly her statement~

could u imagine ur shellac baseplate... having holes like the ones on the perforated trays~
that won't be too good ryt?.. the baseplate isn't that hard as ur metal trays..
ther'e a possiblity of breakage..

when my time came~
i also had the share of her sarcasm..T.T
at first she asked me to get her cidar.. and a ballpen coz she doesn't have one..
so i gave her mine...
when i saw my forms..
i soft-spokenly asked her for the date on my rpd long form~
and u know what she told me??
"iha, huwag mong hanapin sakin ang bagay nah ako ang naglalagay"
and i was like.. wth?!~ what's her problem??
but i took it for granted.. i went straight to my room to attend my class..

when i got there...
my classmates were all complaining about the length of the xerox copies of my classmates' report..
they'll be having a quiz about that..lol~
i noticed it's past 30 minutes already but not a single shadow of my professor~
i went out...
after a while.. i've seen the professor of my friends from the other class enter our room...
she's a substitute professor for the day~
she's just posting some acetate film for us to copy...
but we, the students are either reviewing for the next subject or chatting about some stuff..hehe...
it's 10:30 and she decided to dismissed us...

to be continued.....

the moment i stepped unto my university grounds...
i started running...
y?
hmm.. because we (jed & i) were dead meat if i won't be in a hurry..
it's because we weren't able to post
the collage pic needed for the compass activity this morning in time~
*sigh*
u know what's the funny thing??
even how fast i move.. i'm still late!!!
the program started already..lol~
so i was just on the sidelines watching it~


but that's not really our fault noh~
imagine?? we knew about the whole thingy saturday afternoon?!
how on earth we'll be able to gather thoughts and materials for that activity?!
that would be hard huh~ [so inconsiderate!!!!]
and to think.. it's a sunday the next day~
no one goes to school on a sunday..
that would be martyrdom~!~
aishhhhhh~

anyways i thought we would be reprimanded for it big time~
but not a single word from our advisor~
he's so nice..^.^
he just encourage us to post it already~
that time we were so unlucky indeed...
the senior officers were all @ the hospital having their duty as dental interns...
the only one's left is me, the president...jed~
and ever so helpful juniors!!!!(hooray..hooray~!~)*sarcastic mode*..hmpph~

so to continue the story...

after all those hurrying~
we ended up with sweats on our faces...

but our hard efforts are not wasted at all..
coz the two of us achieved something for our clinical requirements..at least~
yipee!!!!

he got an endo patient~
and i got my perio patient...hehe..(^.^)v
god is so good all the time!!!!..haha!!!

then i hear my stomach grumbling~
i noticed it's past 12 already...
so we ate lunch after @ kfc~
together with our friend yhiz..[the birthday celebrant]
(HAPPY BIRTHDAY 2 U.. LOVE YAH.. MHUAX MHUAX~!~)

it had been a reproductive day for us...
but i don't want another repitition of that event~ =.='

i got home early...
and had my hair dyed..lol~
it's supposed to look like tamarind.. but it ended up being brown..lol~
weird?!..=)
anyways..
tomorrow is a pedo day for me...
EXO EXO EXO!!!
i want to get it all done~
i'm hoping for the best tomorrow...

best of luck for me~~
aja aja~!~
fighting!!!

ja~

wheeeeeeeeeeeee~~
i'm happy happy!!!

u know why??

well i had the chance to talk with my newest bro~!~
lol~~

i was @ the protho section earlier this afternoon~
just chatting with friends~
and doin' my final design for the fabrication of my bilateral metal framework..
then my phone started to vibrate for the nth time?!

i didn't mind it at first coz i thought those were just my patients saying hellos~
then i got curious coz it was vibrating for a long time already...
i picked it up...
i accidentally press the speaker button~
so i ended up not understanding what the caller was saying...=.='
when i try to see who's calling~
i got shocked~~..hehe
i was receiving a long distance call from malaysia~
lil bro eji is calling~!~..*0*
but...
it was disconnected..=(

i texted him to call again coz i can't hear the words he's saying~

after a minute or so~
we were able to talk nah~
and still i can't understand~
i can hear him laughing at me..lol~
such a meanie!!!!..>.<
but i don't mind @ all~
and he said..
he just called to ask.."how are u sis??"
he's such a sweet guy!!!..^.^
and i appreciated it.. so damn much~!~

*sigh sigh*
after the conversation...
i had a smile on my face..=)
coz i know that i gained a real friend again...

the first thing i did in the morning was to sterilize my instruments needed for my RESTO...

i'm expecting 3 patients for the day~
coz saturday is an OD day for us...
the rate of being rejected is minimal..

the first person i prayed that will come is my COMPRE patient...
all that needs to be done with her is the bilateral metal framework..
and i'm stuck with it!!!
i've been trying to contact her since day one...=(

the second one is my class four patient...
and u know what??
yipee!!!.. she came..^.^
haven't had the chance to do my clinical requirement~
but who cares.. at least no need to worry about her

that much~ hehe

the last would be my fpd-jacket patient~
she came and...
HOORAY!! HOORAY!!
her case got approved..*grinning*
i'm so excited that i even asked the so called "prostho king" to help me with the cast prep...(>.~)v

all the armamentaria needed had all been prepared..hehe..

but...

here comes the problem...
when my professor saw my radiograph~
BOOM!!!!
he says the magic word... rejected..
again~
well i know the reason why~
but i've been trying to finish it as soon as i can..
as soon as my schedule would permit it~
but i don't have a choice but to find another patient..
and it's hard!!!!

i pray to God everything works out fine~
i know everything has it's own reason...
*sigh*